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Amy Schneidhorst

I have just read through a number of either negative or neutral student evaluations and I realize that despite all the energy I put into connecting with students, trying to live up to their expectations of an entertaining, commanding, nurturing, authority figure is not my wheelhouse. I am just going to have to be me and suffer the consequences. Someone they can't label as a mother or wife or member of a family unit who has some power over them for 15 weeks. And I suspect my ambiguity plays a role in students having a hard time pigeon-holing me.

Kate B.

"I am just going to have to be me and suffer the consequences" - I can totally relate! We really have so little control over how others see us. I try to focus my energies on being as patient and compassionate as I can possibly manage, and other than that I let myself be whatever I am at the moment. Hang in there!


Familial scripts not only haunt us but shape us in positive ways I knew a young associate dean who everyone marveled at because he had a positive relationship with his boss (the dean) To everyone else's mind, the dean was absolutely impossible. When asked how he did it, he said, "he's my dad." This young associate dean learned how to have a positive relationship with his dad and now models that with his dean. In the last decade, this associate dean has moved rapidly up the ranks and is now the provost at a large university. I love this story because it reminds us that, although we are all walking wounded, our experiences yet can build resilience into our character, opening us for positive change.

Kate B.

That's a great story!

Kate B.

(Someone on the FB page correctly noted that the implication that students are not adults is problematic. I certainly didn't mean to imply that; the title refers mainly to myself feeling like a child.)

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